Criticism is a great opportunity to grow, adapt, and learn. And yet, it can be difficult to take; even when you ask for it. There is a small window between curiosity and ego that allows feedback to enter into our brains for thoughtful consideration. When this window is open we can be better, stronger versions of ourselves and improve what we do. How you keep that window open long enough to take it?
Here are 4 strategies to increase your capacity to receive and apply criticism:
1. Respect the Source
Criticism can be difficult to digest, especially if you don’t respect the source. Respecting the source is essential to your ability to hear the critique so seek critical feedback from individuals whose perspective and experience you value.
2. Shut up and Listen
When feedback is being offered, listen actively, avoid being defensive, or making excuses. Don’t worry about whether you agree with it or not, just shut up and listen.
3. Let it Simmer
Take the criticism and let it simmer. Be thoughtful and reflective; don’t make any quick judgments or decisions. Give yourself time to consider what has been offered and how it applies; as you let is simmer new possibilities, new connections, and new ideas will begin to surface.
4. Take Action
Criticism has little value if you aren’t able to use it to grow, adapt, and learn. Once you’ve gotten some feedback and reflected on it, identify specific actions you can take to improve. Make your “To Do” list.
Go back to one and repeat.